It seems like your partner is two completely different people. Your partner finds faults with your friends or makes you feel bad or uncomfortable about any time you spend with other people. You want to believe that this is possible, but the cycle keeps repeating and each time your self-esteem is chipped away at, bit by bit. He might hit or kick your dog whenever he comes over. Each time he hurts you, he apologizes and promises that it will never happen again or that he will change. Your partner knows your weaknesses and he goes after your most vulnerable parts, hurting you where he knows it will do the most damage. You feel ashamed, lost, alone, confused, numb, afraid, crazy, stupid, ugly, fat, worthless, embarrassed, unloveable, wrong. Your partner tortures animals, is mean to children, or nasty to waitresses.Please note that your privacy will be protected with all postings. "We call that the good old Turkey Drop," David Leonard, the dean of first-year students at Washington and Lee University, told me during an interview for a story about freshmen on Thanksgiving break. Whether or not you celebrate Thanksgiving, there is a phenomenon in college known as the turkey dump. Also known as the turkey drop or the Thanksgiving dump, its the rather flippant term for a fairly serious milestone. For those of us living in Canada, this past weekend was Thanksgiving. This is when first-year students return home around Thanksgiving and break up with their high school sweethearts. Um, common enough to have a website dedicated to it... While most of us nurse little more than a bloated belly after Thanksgiving, some undergrads are treating something much more serious the sting of saying goodbye to their hometown sweetheart. However, for many university and college students, Thanksgiving weekend is a tragically horrible time when they are dumped by their high school love. It's no joke, colleges and universities have some of the finest looking young people around and your thoughts are quite normal. You're at a new school and can't help that your mind is wandering from your text book to that fine lookin' individual sitting next to you in Psych 101.After all, you'll need some time to get to know that delicious looking person down the hall in your residence. If you're reading this you've most likely just had your heart broken. Just when you think you've figured out how to make the long distance thing work, your highschool sweetheart decides to heave your heart down a spiral staircase. There are plenty of interesting people around you right now!
She was pretty upset at the time, but we've still kept talking since our break up last year. My boyfriend and I met in grade 11 at Abraxas Continuation and had been together for the remainder of high school.
If you've been treated poorly however, it may be time to move on and experience what college and university life has to offer. Take a look in the mirror and remind yourself what they'll be missing out on. If a change in location trivializes your being together, do you really think it would have worked long term anyhow?
Whatever the decision, make it this coming thanksgiving and save yourself a hassle-free school year. Begin searching for a new person who will appreciate you for all you have to offer.
I've since moved on as well, and have met some great guys.
submitted by Alyssa This guy from my high school broke up with his girlfriend after first year because he wanted to sew his wild oats.