If a man feels like you’re judging his faults or shortcomings, he’ll never open up and listen.
Instead, he’ll shut down, stop “hearing” you, and pull back even more. He tells Helen Hunt, “You make me want to be a better man…” You can create the space for your guy to WANT to be a better man on his own. Reason #3: He Fears Losing His Freedom Have you thought about why a man commits himself to one woman, and how your guy FEELS in your relationship lately?
and you find ways to continually praise and appreciate each other rather than criticize or tear each other down…you’ll be amazed at how he’ll show you his love and appreciation in return.
Too many relationships lose the simple appreciation which brought them together in the first place.
But you CAN’T make him do this by DEMANDING that he change. If you’re having more negative interactions than positive ones, a man will question what you have.
If it goes on for too long, eventually he’ll start thinking about a way out.
I get it – when a woman doesn’t feel heard or appreciated in her relationship, changing her tone seems like the only way to get a man’s attention.
These are men who suffer from hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD).
Yet, at times, even a good man can become overwhelmed verbally, and go into what I call “emotional overwhelm.” This is where a man can’t handle the emotions coming at him and feels so anxious inside that he ends up withdrawing to get away. If you can learn to talk about “loaded” topics without having your man become emotionally overwhelmed, your relationship will instantly change for the better.
But if you keep pushing each other past a safe emotional place, don’t wonder why he acts distant.
Levels dip as men age; other causes include chronic disease, medications, and other drug use.
Other hormones can play a role, too, such as low levels of thyroid hormone or, rarely, high levels of prolactin, a hormone produced in a gland at the base of the brain. Sexual desire obviously involves the brain -- and the brain's chemical messaging system is intimately linked to sexual desire. Doctors have noted that Parkinson's disease patients treated with dopamine-stimulating drugs had increased sexual desire.