It’s so nice to have someone to be codependent with, who brings out the best in you, but you’re missing something — sex, attraction.For me, this close friendship always ends with them finding someone who can provide what we have PLUS some of the missing elements, they no longer need you as much any more; It feels like a huge loss.It’s exciting, transient, and fits my ever changing and growing self.I’ve had best friends who would sleep over, we’d go on dates to like wine country, buy each other presents, make our Facebook profile Pics as pics of us, have a million inside jokes, call and text each other multiple times a day — it’s called ‘codependence.’ It’s just like having a new boyfriend that you’re crazy about because they’re JUST LIKE YOU OMG!
The best way to vet out a potential pedophile who is pretending to be interested in you but is targeting your child for abuse is to tell them straight up, “My kid is off limits, your relationship is with me and me only. ” Step parents are overrated and it should take well over a year or two before a boyfriend or fiance is alone with your kids.
This is why I stress that women should not move fast in relationships and they should definitely not play house with men.
Playing house with a boyfriend when you have children is working against your child’s best interest even if your boyfriend is not a predator. The predator will not wait very long to have access to your children and will find a way out of the relationship with you if you withhold access to your child.
So, for 6 years I have never called someone my boyfriend (Are you my bf?
), never been a girlfriend, and, never had consistent monogamous *cough*relations*cough* with a person. Imagine that if you have ‘a person’ in your life, they are able to BE a lot of those slices for you, so you have less of a need, outside that person, to get those remaining fractions handled by other people (which is why us single people see our married friends just a little less frequently).